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Why This Mama Wants Spoilers

15 Jul

I am not up on almost all of the most recent shows and movies.

My husband watches a few of them, and keeps me apprised of the developments on the ones I catch 6 minutes of while folding laundry or just sitting down after getting the kid down for a nap.

I want the cliff-notes version. I want the spoilers and plot points, not the endless suspense and drama.

Here are my biggest reasons. (Let’s see if you ping on a couple of these.)

I don’t have time for the show.

As a mother I have a lot on my to do list. Sitting around watching a half hour show that advances the story arc half an inch is not on that list. Anywhere.

Now, yes, I have been careful to put downtime and self-care on that to do list, but I have enough to do with long, thick hair to wash, taking care of my health, blogging, reading, church, and family time.

So, no, I do not have time to sit around stressing about whether someone is going to fall off the cliff in the emotional cliffhanger.

I don’t have emotional space for the drama.

That last sentence leads right into this point: I do not have the emotional reserves to be stressing and tensed up over what the writers have planned for the characters next. I have a toddler who has a breakdown because I carry her to the car…after I just spent 6 minutes trying to convince her she needed to wear her shoes or she wouldn’t be able to walk herself to the car. *head desk*

I can’t exhaust my poor overworked adrenaline glands on an epic battle that has been going on for 3 seasons now. I need my adrenaline for things like when my kid decides to climb onto the kitchen counter to inventory the spice cupboard. 

I don’t want my toddler to see it/hear the language.

If I time things right, pray hard, and am really fortunate, I will get an hour of kid free time in the early morning, or during nap. Every other blue moon, I get both on the same day. So I have very little time when my child is not at my feet or in my lap.

And most of the popular shows have situations and language that I would rather not have my small child exposed to.

She is coming into an age when one moment something is fascinating and the next it’s blood curdling scream terrifying. Bugs, the dog, a game, a story, just something that’s going on inside her head, can set her off in a panic that requires me to drop whatever I am doing and comfort her; whether I understand it or not.

I do not need to add the sights and sounds of killings, life or death situations, mob scenes, or just plain old monsters to her already overactive imagination.

It’s not my genera, but I like a couple of the characters.

There are stories I really like, but I just can’t stand the way they’re being handled. There are characters I am intrigued by, but I don’t want to sit through an entire cast’s drama to keep tabs on them.

So, if my husband happens to be watching an episode I’ll ask him for a rundown of this episode’s plot, or how a particular character is faring. That’s all I really want to know. Thankfully, after explaining this situation to my husband, he is more than happy to summarize things for me in a short conversation. In a way it’s the best of both worlds for him, he gets to watch his shows, and after a two minute explanation of the latest developments he has someone handy to discuss the plot and characters with.

There are a lot of things I could probably get sucked into caring about, but I don’t have the time or emotional resources to handle them and still be a caring, involved parent. I am not deprived in anyway, or starved for entertainment, but I do have to set boundaries on my sources and remember that it’s just a story. Perhaps in a few years, if I still am interested I’ll buy or borrow a boxed set of whatever and binge for a few weekends. In the meantime, I’ll keep doing what is best for me and my family.

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Dear Overwhelmed Mommy

2 Jun

Dear Overwhelmed Mommy,

You are not alone.

At any given time there are thousands of mothers around the world throwing their hands up and giving in to cereal for dinner.

Right now there are millions of moms praying daddy gets home on time so they have an adult to talk with.

I can guarantee you that most mommies out there know exactly how many more hours there are until bed time.

Because this is hard work.

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An overtired toddler at the laundromat a few months ago. Poor Kathleen.

We hear it all the time, but this really is hard work.

Sure, there are people out there who use machinery bigger than the average house, solve five page math problems in their heads, and there are even guys who knock the snot out of each other for a living.

But they get to leave their job behind at the end of the day. They get to turn off the lights, get in their cars, and go home. They can mentally escape. Shut down for a few hours.

Us? Our jobs wake us up, and are often the last thing we see as we fall asleep. We often get woken up in the night, whether our job titles were actually called or not. We can’t even shower without our jobs interfering.

We’ve been home all day.

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Does the cycle of dishes ever end?

Or, we haven’t been home all day, but when we do (with 90 pounds of groceries hanging on our arms), we don’t see a comfortable couch to crash on. No. We see the pile of laundry at the end of the couch everyone has learned to not even try sitting on, and that the carpet has an entire box of toys sprawled on it, and needs vacuumed. And, our little job is pushing us through the door, because those toys are calling to them.

We don’t get paid. We rarely get job recognition. We don’t get a promotion until our little ones have little ones.

Wait, wasn’t this meant to be a pep talk?

Not really.

Because I don’t have much in the way of pep right now.

I just want to say, “I see you.”

“You are not alone.”

There is most likely at least one mother on every continent, right now, who is going through something nearly identical to your day.

I kid you not.

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I think she’s deaf to the word no. Well, except when she’s saying it.

Because although every child is unique, their wants, needs, and energy are not.

You are screaming in frustration, crying from exhaustion, and giving up out of despair.

I did all of that last night.

And do you know what?

My toddler still snuggled into me at bed time.

The sun still rose this morning.

The birds are singing.

And my morning mocha tastes amazing.

Yes, due to my child’s issues yesterday the only thing I accomplished was keeping us alive.

Yes, my husband held me for five minutes when he found me bawling just around the corner from the dining room.

Yes, our cars are both still dead, and I can’t just go get the groceries and supplies I want.

No, I have no idea how we’re getting to a big party tomorrow that I helped plan.

No, I don’t think we’re going to win the lottery.

But! We will survive.

There will be smiles and laughter today.

Today we won’t be housebound due to rain and thunderstorms.

I have what I need to make breakfast, lunch and dinner for a couple days.

I have relatives to call for a ride to the party.

I have a sister back in the area I haven’t seen in months and can’t wait for a hug.

I have another sister who likes taking me to coffee.

I have another sister who has more kids than me, in a house smaller than mine, who has still survived.

This is possible.

Today is a new day.

I have a to do list, and I will do my best.

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P.S. Yesterday was a craptastic day, but, as another reminder of how wonderfully resilient kids are, I just heard my two year old giggle in her sleep. So much arguing. So many tears from both of us. And she’s giggling in her sleep. ❤

Kathleen 3.5 months - 5-14-2015

Wasn’t she sooo cute, back before she started saying no to everything, even things she wants!

 

 

Sugar High on National Pie Day

14 Mar

Sitting on the couch, eating pumpkin pie with Cool Whip as Kathleen helps herself to the occasional spoonful of cold, white, fluff and watches Ruby Gloom.

Daylight savings has taken its toll on our routine. I may actually have to set a morning alarm for the next few days in hopes of getting the toddler and me up at a more reasonable hour and reset our internal clocks. Not waking up until 10 (Mon and Tues) really throws off nap and bed time.

The crazy amount of snow we got this winter is mostly gone. Yay! Now we wait for planting time. There’s a spot in our front yard that tomatoes love, and we may try bell peppers in a box they enjoyed a few years ago. Not too sure what we are going to do for a regular garden, though. Between the greenhouse frame collapsing under the snow, and the good possibility of the ridiculously free-range chickens around here terrorizing an unprotected garden I already fear for the safety of possible seedlings. :/

I need to find a place to set up my writing computer. There’s a project close to my heart that needs to get off the ground and out there sooner rather than later. It will require a website / blog all its own, and I hope to be able to draft a few friends into helping. Hopefully it will be useful for those it’s created for, as well as financially helpful to those of us who make it and keep it running.

I really need to trim this kid’s finger nails.

Ooh, my brother-in-law just brought home burgers and fries. Yum.

 

#MirthMusicMon – Potty Training Prep

11 Jul

We have the baby toilet seat, the little plastic potty, panties, and lots of towels for accidents. It’s all ready after Kathleen gave several clear signs that she waned to start using the potty. Everything is ready and…now she hates it.

Sigh.

Oh, well, at least we’ll be ready the nanosecond she starts being interested in it again.

In her defense, she’s not even quite a year and a half. But for a week there she would throw a royal fit if she didn’t get to try the potty BEFORE mommy. Every time. It’s a really good thing I come from a long line of women with amazing bladder control. lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LR3Y0Az31yw

It’s a bit of a giggle, anyway.

(I never understood the aversion to touching a flush lever with your hands, you’re going to wash them after anyway, right? *shrugs*)

You’ve probably had enough of this next song, but it still cracks me up. Especially when I’m not a solid liquid and still melting. lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UFatVn1hP3o

Alright, we’re going to go enjoy summer by hunting down the illusive Ham-Burger-Thing. Perhaps with a Shookten Milk with it. 😉

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That’s it for me today.

My husband is also behind the times with his post this week, and perhaps ReGi will have time for one (but she’s balancing more plates than me, so she’s got a free pass a time or two a month), so check back HERE this evening and there should be another post or two.

Take Care! 😀

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#MirthMusicMon – Your Post Baby Groove

18 Apr

For this Mirth and Music Monday I found something that struck a chord and gave me a chuckle.

How much of this baby-tastic house do you recognize (or remember being) in your own house? lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=53Dp6EBQ-pA

It’s a difficult thing at times to find your inner sexiness after you’ve been mauled by a baby for a year. But, find it we should. You don’t always have to flaunt it, but you need to know it’s still there.

Here’s to our post baby bodies. 😀

And the hope that one of these days I’ll work up the guts to leave my toddling nursling at someone’s house and have dinner out with just my husband.

We’ll see how soon that actually happens. She’s showing symptoms of another cold. (groan)

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And just for good measure, here’s a father showing his kid he’s still got it:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WT7Ledwpdw8

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For more Mirth and Music Monday posts from other participating bloggers click HERE.

That’s also where you’ll want to click if you should choose to join our campaign to ease the impact of the dreaded Monday. 🙂

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#MirthMusicMon – Procrastination 6-5000

10 Apr

This procrastination thing has my life all wrapped up.

It’s around my writing, blogging, social life, housework, even eating my meals, for heaven’s sake!

One of the few things I procrastinated on was getting photos of Kathleen in the Easter dress my mother knitted for her. Win!

One of the few things I didn’t procrastinate on was getting photos of Kathleen in the Easter dress my mother knitted. Win!

So it was nice to come across a video that explains what I’m going through, with a bit of humor.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arj7oStGLkU&ebc=ANyPxKrY3OMsVqW6yjk2uJjEp7sD9zEKF129DTArpEEW3RsL55Sp9892uMl-Ld3TyU2ibvn-AdUW7Qmc2F_Xtfyw6092in2MLA&nohtml5=False

Now I just need to figure out a way to make self-imposed deadlines more…scary?

Any suggestions?

Seriously, any ideas?

Your input may just get this highly distractable brain into gear.

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The music bit was easy. I found something I hadn’t heard in a while; and as you can see it made for an interesting post title. Bonus! lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_muFwwTSMs&nohtml5=False

Hard to go wrong with Glen Miller.

(Plus, Kathleen did a little boogy while holding onto the table, so you know it’s got a good sound. 😉 )

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That’s it for this post.

Click HERE for more of this week’s Mirth and Music Monday posts from other amazing bloggers.

If you would like to put together a post with something funny and something musical (it can be the same video) go ahead and click the link to go add your post to the list. Don’t be shy. We love new participants.

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#MirthMusicMon – Sneezing

28 Mar

You know how last week I thought there was a cold coming my direction?

I was wrong.

It was a flu.

Too much fever and body aches to be a cold. :/

Sleeping Kathleen - a few days before we came down with this crud.

Sleeping Kathleen – a few days before we came down with this crud.

Kathleen is actually not doing too bad with this. I only had to wipe her nose for a couple of days, she spikes a mild fever once or twice a day, and has developed only a touch of a cough. For the most part she’s still tearing around the house at the same speed. She really thrilled our female lab this afternoon when she decided to devote an hour to pulling little handfulls of kibble out of the dog food bag and feeding it to her. Of course, this was while Kathleen was also enjoying the fruits of her labor, eating probably 4 or 5 pieces herself. (It’s high quality, American made stuff that the dogs have been on for years, so I’m not worried about a few pieces here and there. lol)

Her father and I, on the other hand, are trying to decide if we need to email someone our final wishes. It’s been just over a week for him, and just under one for me, so obviously…we’re going to die.

Seriously, though, it’s miserable at times, but…yeah, I got nothin’.

We will recover. (Have to. I don’t have near enough life insurance on him yet. 😉 )

And when we do I really hope we’ll have a couple days in the 60 degree area so I can air this house out, then go for a walk.

Oh! Speaking of walking. Kathleen walked across the dining room this evening!!! She took her daddy a couple pieces of dog food. lol  Twelve feet! And she didn’t pause, squat, or brace herself on anything. It was slow going, but she made it. 😀

And while she was having me tell her the names of body parts she interrupted me by pointing to her knee and saying “Knee.” Then she pointed to mine and said it again.

I’ve been having little flashbacks to the nerve wracking meeting with her NICU Neurologist where we were told that there was no evidence of oxygen deprivation brain damage, but they couldn’t rule out developmental delays, and warned that there was a good chance she would need monitoring over the next couple years.

My puffy little morphined up baby on the morning of her 7th day of life.

My puffy little morphined up baby on the morning of her 7th day of life.

I think that’s partly why I’m always so over the moon when she does these little things that prove she’s right on track.

She loves to 'help' me clean the floors. Bet your Swiffer doesn't have baby bite marks. ;)

She loves to ‘help’ me clean the floors. Bet your Swiffer doesn’t have baby bite marks. 😉

We have been very blessed. She makes us laugh at least a couple times a day, and reminds us to not take ourselves too seriously. How can you when your little one is handing you an old flip phone fully expecting you to converse with her imaginary caller? 😀

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For Mirth and Music Monday I thought I would use a Veggie Tales song about sneezing. Because, let’s face it, I’ve been getting a lot of practice.

What I hate, is when you get one of those sneezes that just hangs out in your sinuses for what feels like ages. Your head itches and your nose twitches; your eyes water and feel like they’re crossed. It’s miserable!

And just as you’re wondering if it has decided not to happen, so you set the box of tissues back down, it rushes out in a blaze of…um, well, not glory. 😉

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jpMchY-_edY

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That’s all I have for this week.

For more Mirth and Music Monday click HERE to be taken to the linky where you’ll have your choice of other bloggers’ posts.

That’s also where you can input your own post if you should decide to join in the fun. 😀

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#MirthMusicMon – Jimmy Stewart, Everybody!

21 Mar

There is a cold going through this house, and it’s headed straight for me.

Crap. (I know germ killing air filters are really expensive, but are they worth it? Seriously, are they?)

So, I need to get this post done so I get enough sleep to go shopping tomorrow. When Lonnie and I are both down for the count food is difficult. So, time to stock up on easy to cook things, and stuff for crockpot meals.

I’m seriously praying this passes over me and baby (I really want her to go Easter egg hunting!), but we need to go shopping anyway, because I’m tired of digging through the cupboards playing What Will These Taste Like Together.

Ever played that kitchen game? lol

At least it’s one good way to make sure someone in the house eats that random packet of sardines, or herring in red sauce. (I’ve never bought any, but we’ve got ’em. *shudders)

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Mirth and Music Monday is a lot of fun. I get to justify perusing YouTube looking for entertaining videos. 😀

Jimmy Stewart telling a joke, everybody!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IiICcSH8iY

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Here’s a song from my favorite of his movies, Pot O’ Gold, a lively, feel-good movie with a happy ending.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PIoPP_9ivP8

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For more Mirth and Music Monday click HERE.

That’s also where you can upload your own link if you should decide to join us in making Mondays a little more bearable.

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Are you experiencing a spring cold? How are you coping with the flu fever and cabin fever at the same time?

Have you every watched Pot O’ Gold? What’s your favorite Jimmy Stewart movie?

Did you know he voiced the old sheriff dog in An American Tail: Fieval Goes West? (he’s listed as James Stewart)

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Never, Ever Give up Complaining for Lent

12 Feb

Does it count as complaining if I couch this in comedy as a cautionary tale?

I hope not.

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Ok, so Wednesday night, I decided after seeing stuff about Lent on Facebook that this year might be a good one to participate again. I couldn’t, however, think of anything practical to give up, so it went to the way-side. Last night, a day late, I came across more stuff about Lent, and then some inspirational stuff about stopping complaining and trying to view the positive and be thankful for it.

Well, after getting the idea in my head I liked it.

It might have helped if I’d concentrated on the right end of that idea, though.

So last night I set myself up for success by staying up even later than normal. Genus, right?

This morning came far too fast when Kathleen woke up an hour earlier than usual.

Then we had a present from a dog on the kitchen floor. Eew!

Things went normally for a bit as I did my little morning routine while baby watched Kipper, then I got a bowl of cereal. That’s when she decided it was imperative that she be held…Right Now!

No can do, Pumpkin, I have my hands full with the need for fuel. So she wore down my patience with heartbreaking cries between kisses and momentary distractions of shiny toys. I, not the fastest eater in the world due to a tummy that does not take kindly to it, did my best to wolf down my food.

After changing her diaper we head for bed again, where she naps for an hour, two hours early.

She wakes up and we exit the bedroom heading for her changing table…

And encounter a very proud of himself Labrador finishing off the nose of her changing table teddy.

Can this day get any more fun?

Yes. Yes, it can.

I go to microwave some leftovers for an early lunch and the breaker for the kitchen goes. So, I go to find Lonnie and tell him what kind of day I’m having. He goes and flips the breaker back on and holds Kathleen while I get started eating.

Uh, so that’s been the day so far. I spent the entire time looking for things to Not complain about. See the problem?

Now, what could this day have gone like if I’d been concentrating on the second half of the saying? What if I had been looking for the positive? The things to be thankful for?

Well, for starters, we all woke up this morning. No one came down with a surprise cold. Baby’s diaper didn’t overflow. See? A whole list of things before even getting out of bed.

I could have been thankful Lonnie remembered to get the trash out the night before, so there wasn’t much for him to clean up.

We had cereal and milk for me to eat.

When I got her to bed Kathleen fell asleep quickly and solidly, which allowed me to take a bit of a nap, too.

After waking up, she eliminated  quickly, so I was able to clean it up with only one wipe.

The dog, while oh so proud of his taking out of the evil stuffed animal, did not argue with me when I took the poor thing away from him. And he hadn’t had time to do more damage than removing the nose. It will take a bit of work to fix it, but it is salvageable and still cute.

When I told Lonnie about the blown breaker he didn’t complain or procrastinate. He put aside what he was doing and fixed the problem. Then he held and entertained the baby while I ate the bulk of my food. And, now, rather than going back to his project, he’s hanging out with us, watching silly sci-fi stuff helping corral baby so I can get this blog post out.

See? If I’d looked at the day (as I will now be viewing the rest of Lent) in that light I probably wouldn’t have ended up in a foul mood. Thankfully it was temporary, because I thought about this blog and all of you, and the fact that it might entertain and possible enlighten someone.

Even more to be thankful for. 🙂

Thank you for reading this.

Thank you for being my friends.

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So, how about a little post themed entertainment from Mr. Perry Como?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWee3zJcTpQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWee3zJcTpQ

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Now if you’ll excuse me, Kathleen has a book and an expectant look.

Time to go read to my baby. 🙂

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#MirthMusicMon – I Have No Excuses

8 Feb

Recently I have been using my daughter as an excuse to be…Uh, for lack of a kinder word, lazy.  I need to get my eating habits back on track so I can build up nutrients before a second baby. I need to put on some muscle so I have something to live off of if morning sickness is as bad the second time around. I need to get more projects done so we have enough money coming in to pay for another baby.

Well, no more excuses. (Today, anyway.)

I will work out.

I will eat better.

I will get busy editing my husband Lonnie’s stories.

I will post more stories onto QuarterReads.

I can. I will.

Even if it’s all being done after Kathleen is asleep.

I just have to stop browsing through my personal Facebook for hours on end (It’s an addiction, I tell you!) and get something productive done, like at least posting something original on my Rose’s Road  Facebook page every time I log on. :/

Time to stop procrastinating, and get things in gear again.

And use my daughter as the kettle-bell I can’t afford. 😀

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3llocio5jCc

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How is your to do list looking?

Are you also facing too many incomplete projects?

How are you thinking of getting some traction to make it a done list?

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That’s my Mirth and Music Monday post. If you would like to see more fun posts click HERE to be taken to the list of this weeks other bloggers.

If you would like to become one of the group, click on over and add your post. All you need is something funny and something musical and you’ve got a Mirth and Music Monday post. 😀

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