Tag Archives: Parenting

Here’s to Involved Fathers

9 Dec

Involved fathers are the best. Dads in general so often get a bad rap for just sitting on the couch while the kids run mom ragged. Not all males of the species are so out of tune with their offspring’s needs. So let’s hear it for fathers!

Let’s hear it for fathers who distract the kid so we can pee alone!

Let’s hear it for fathers who play twenty questions with the toddler until he finds out

Father and daughter

No, this is not my husband and daughter. He’s really camera shy.

what’s really behind the melt-down!

Let’s hear it for fathers who get the cranky, over-tired kid into the giggles!

Let’s hear it for fathers who can see a disaster in the making and intercept before the world explodes!

Let’s hear it for fathers who clean up a barfed on chair, and get everything cleaned up and the washer going, while we give our sick little one a bath!

Let’s hear it for fathers who call home to ask what he should bring home from the store…and actually get the right size of diapers!

Let’s hear it for the fathers who change diapers, wipe faces, give baths, and kiss boo-boos!

They’re the best. And we can’t imagine parenting without them!!!

  ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

Your turn! What’s something your partner does that really helps?

What are some ways he balances out one of your parenting weak spots?




Why This Mama Wants Spoilers

15 Jul

I am not up on almost all of the most recent shows and movies.

My husband watches a few of them, and keeps me apprised of the developments on the ones I catch 6 minutes of while folding laundry or just sitting down after getting the kid down for a nap.

I want the cliff-notes version. I want the spoilers and plot points, not the endless suspense and drama.

Here are my biggest reasons. (Let’s see if you ping on a couple of these.)

I don’t have time for the show.

As a mother I have a lot on my to do list. Sitting around watching a half hour show that advances the story arc half an inch is not on that list. Anywhere.

Now, yes, I have been careful to put downtime and self-care on that to do list, but I have enough to do with long, thick hair to wash, taking care of my health, blogging, reading, church, and family time.

So, no, I do not have time to sit around stressing about whether someone is going to fall off the cliff in the emotional cliffhanger.

I don’t have emotional space for the drama.

That last sentence leads right into this point: I do not have the emotional reserves to be stressing and tensed up over what the writers have planned for the characters next. I have a toddler who has a breakdown because I carry her to the car…after I just spent 6 minutes trying to convince her she needed to wear her shoes or she wouldn’t be able to walk herself to the car. *head desk*

I can’t exhaust my poor overworked adrenaline glands on an epic battle that has been going on for 3 seasons now. I need my adrenaline for things like when my kid decides to climb onto the kitchen counter to inventory the spice cupboard. 

I don’t want my toddler to see it/hear the language.

If I time things right, pray hard, and am really fortunate, I will get an hour of kid free time in the early morning, or during nap. Every other blue moon, I get both on the same day. So I have very little time when my child is not at my feet or in my lap.

And most of the popular shows have situations and language that I would rather not have my small child exposed to.

She is coming into an age when one moment something is fascinating and the next it’s blood curdling scream terrifying. Bugs, the dog, a game, a story, just something that’s going on inside her head, can set her off in a panic that requires me to drop whatever I am doing and comfort her; whether I understand it or not.

I do not need to add the sights and sounds of killings, life or death situations, mob scenes, or just plain old monsters to her already overactive imagination.

It’s not my genera, but I like a couple of the characters.

There are stories I really like, but I just can’t stand the way they’re being handled. There are characters I am intrigued by, but I don’t want to sit through an entire cast’s drama to keep tabs on them.

So, if my husband happens to be watching an episode I’ll ask him for a rundown of this episode’s plot, or how a particular character is faring. That’s all I really want to know. Thankfully, after explaining this situation to my husband, he is more than happy to summarize things for me in a short conversation. In a way it’s the best of both worlds for him, he gets to watch his shows, and after a two minute explanation of the latest developments he has someone handy to discuss the plot and characters with.

There are a lot of things I could probably get sucked into caring about, but I don’t have the time or emotional resources to handle them and still be a caring, involved parent. I am not deprived in anyway, or starved for entertainment, but I do have to set boundaries on my sources and remember that it’s just a story. Perhaps in a few years, if I still am interested I’ll buy or borrow a boxed set of whatever and binge for a few weekends. In the meantime, I’ll keep doing what is best for me and my family.







MMM… The Parent Rap

28 Jul

It’s another Monday!

Therefore it is time for Mirth and Music Monday!  Yay!!!


I came across this one and after giggling at it by myself (a couple times. What?)   I figured I would be a good friend and share. My mama didn’t raise no fool.

(Do you have any idea how hard it is to leave that last sentence alone? It hurts!)

On to the entertainment!



Now go forth and have a great parenting week, …or pet owner, or office manager…or… er, yeah.

Just make a good one, alright?

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For other MMM posts go to the blog of our meme originator, the lovely, ReGi McClain!